“A realistic, optimistic guide. A must read.”
— Brenda Ockun, Publisher, StepMom Magazine
Overcome dual-family conflict with proven strategies for creating peace at home!
Many divorced moms and stepmoms feel doomed to a lifetime of chaos when the other household is indifferent or openly hostile.
But you have a lot more power, control and freedom than you realize.
We want to help you see it, reclaim it and then use it wisely.
Skirts at War is a reassuring and playful, hands-on guide to thriving as a stepparent, remarried mom or single parent—even if the other side won’t meet you halfway.
Increase your ability to stay grounded and centered while mastering the most common challenges for divorce-connected families.
Includes breakthrough tools for:
Your Strategic Advantage
The Push and Pull of Power
Simple Boundary Formulas
Increase Your Resilience
Choose Your Roles
Helpful or Harmful Support
Deciphering Men
Building Your Sanctuary
Master the most common challenges families face today:
Instincts - why yours are working against you — and what to do instead
Support - how to sidestep well-meaning, but sabotaging advice and tune into truth-telling wisdom
Men - how fathers see our interconnected roles, in the words of a man in the middle himself
Expectations - why your “perfectly reasonable” assumptions set you up for disappointment and resentment
Self-Worth - why old issues from your past are easily triggered and how to desensitize them
Boundaries - how to transfer responsibilities to the right shoulders and stop overdoing for others
“Through personal accountability, Skirts at War shows parents and stepparents how to restore a sense of belonging and significance to their children and stepchildren. A hopeful, upbeat guide. Highly recommended!”
— Amy McCready, The Me, Me, Me Epidemic, Today Show contributor
“An exciting new addition to the stepfamily field. It provides readers with the necessary tools to lead happy, healthy lives, regardless of their particular challenges. Every stepfamily should have a copy of this book.”
— Rachelle Katz, psychotherapist and author of The Happy Stepmother
Skirts at War includes:
over 100 comments from readers, eager to share their hard-won insights
interactive quizzes, assessments and how-tos
journal questions designed to easily move you forward
affirming mantras to ground and center you
a chapter by Mario Korf written directly to divorced fathers
“My wife just finished this book and I read the chapter for the divorced dad. It all really hit home. Our family is indebted to the authors!”
Reader Feedback
“If you are at all feeling helpless like I was, I highly recommend this workbook. You’ll learn to take back control of your own emotions and regain control of your life.”
“I finally felt like someone understood the reality involved with stepfamilies. This book should be read by every adult in a stepfamily!”
"I wish this book had been around 14 years ago. What a beautifully strong and positive place to begin what may be the most challenging and gratifying part of your journey."
— Gina Torres, actress (Suits, Firefly)
About the Authors
Jenna Korf and Jennifer Newcomb
Jenna Korf (left) is a certified Stepfamily Foundation coach, author, and a stepmom. Her work has been seen on CNN, PopSugar and The Huffington Post. You can learn more about Jenna here.
Jennifer Newcomb (right) is the co-author of No One's the Bitch: A Ten-Step Plan for Mothers and Stepmothers, which was co-written with Carol Marine, stepmom to her children.